why men must always find a purpose - part one
Have you ever wondered why some men are happier in life than others? Some might say a man is happier because he has money. Others might say because he has a beautiful girlfriend. While an abundance of money and a gorgeous partner can certainly make a man happy for a while, one bad decision can sometimes render those things non-existent. The reality is happiness is driven by what’s within. External things are fleeting, but who we are on the inside tends to stay with us. Having an identity driven by purpose is crucial to men in today’s modern society as it can be the lens that we use to navigate through life.
We admire men who have positive identities because they tend to be the ones winning in life. But what about the others? What about the men holding onto negativity as their identity. I’m referring to those people who willingly attach themselves to negativity when positive alternatives exist. When some men are so angry in life because they feel betrayed, defeated, or abandoned they may believe that they have no choice in how they feel and how they identify. So what do these men do? They resist what’s different and remain with what’s familiar. And in this case what’s familiar is identifying with negativity, which includes sadness, anger, and bitterness. Unfortunately, they avoid identifying with things that can potentially make them happy. They resist things like gratitude, purpose, ambition, hope, and general emotional intelligence.
Do you want proof about how powerful identity is to someone’s life? Just read the comments section of any social media or YouTube thread. Men without a positive identity will go on a comment section just to attack something good because it keeps them in that familiar negative state. They will write hurtful things about others that go beyond simple trolling. Their comments are written with just as much conviction as it is with genuine hurt. They’ll attack other posters unprovoked. They’ll write nonsensical and unwarranted attacks on peaceful topics or public figures. They will attack the identity of anyone within their digital reach because at some point in their life they relegated themselves to this current identity that tries to heal the hurt by hurting others. Their identity rooted in negativity rather than one of purpose has become like a pit filled only with endless sadness, anger, and bitterness – what’s familiar.
- Bryan Do